Wednesday, October 16, 2013

I Beg Your Question!


Now, lookit:

There are words and phrases that sound the opposite of what they mean. “We expect a certain amount of snow this winter,” means that, though we expect snow, we are not certain how much snow we will get this winter. Somehow “certain” has become “uncertain.”

“Opprobrium” sounds as though it means approval. In fact, it means condemnation.

“Meretricious” sounds as though it means something has merit. What it really means is a thing that appears to have merit, but is instead awful.” The word is itself meretricious.

There are other examples, too, of course. The odious “I could care less” means the only slightly less odious “I couldn’t care less.” (It also means the speaker is not listening to his or her own words.)

On and on.

But here’s the latest foul-up. “That begs the question” does not mean “That raises the question.” It means, “That avoids the question,” or, usually, more precisely, “That intentionally dodges the question.” To beg the question is to leave the question unanswered, rather than to suggest the question in the first place.

News people from the serious kind – “This is the news” – to the comic – “This is the fake news” – to the Sunday morning pundits – “But the real issue here, George, David, Bob, John, Chris”-- all make this mistake.

Why? Hard to say. Probably because to them it sounds good. Like “Oversight” which really means a mistake but is used to mean “oversee.” Or “Feedback” which any broadcasting person should know is a terrible electronic snafu, very hard on the ears, but has become “response.” Or, more to the point, words are often simply about sound and this phrase sounds important.

Mark Twain said: “The difference between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between lightning and the lightning bug. “

“Beg the question” is our latest lightning bug. And it’s a dim one.

Tuesday, October 1, 2013

No News May Be Good News But No Problem is a Problem

Now look: this isn’t complicated. Yet it’s confusing a lot of people. In fact, recently, when CBS SUNDAY MORNING had one of its editorial lite guys try to explain the “No Problem” problem, he got it wrong.

The crux is that instead of saying, “You’re welcome,” the younger generation is saying “No problem.” The older generation thinks, “I never said there was a problem. In fact, there never was a problem and no one ever thought there was a problem. So why are you saying, 'No problem,' when I pay for my groceries or I acknowledge you for holding the elevator for me?"

The CBS guy got all turned around, though, saying that when you thanked someone for a big favor, then it was okay for that person to reply, “No problem.”

No.

When someone does something for which you thank him or her, there are many things to say: “You’re welcome.” “Sure Thing.” “You bet.” “Glad to do it.” Or, in some cases, “No! Thank you!!!”

Back to basics. Manners are about making the other person feel good. The only time saying “No Problem” meets that standard is as an answer to an apology. Someone feels bad because of stepping on your toe, losing something he or she borrowed from you, spilling coffee on your rug, breaking a dish of yours.

To make that person feel better in such a situation, when he or she apologizes, you try to alleviate the embarrassment, make the person feel okay again. So you say, “You have done no real harm.” Nothing serious. Don’t worry. The person in question has created no problem.

Thus, this guide post: when someone does something nice and you say, “Thank you,” the reply should never be, “No harm done.”

You got a problem with that?